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Helping your child choose friends on social networking sites.
Helping Your Child Make Better Friends | Psychology Today
Seeded on Mon Jan 16, 2012 3:41 PM EST
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In most cases of bullying, when kids resort to bullying another peer, it is usually the bully's way of saying, "you don't belong to this group, now leave or I will continue to make your life miserable." Meanwhile the recipient of the bullying continues to return to the scene, as if to say eventually I shall outlast you and everyone else will come to accept me.
Unfortunately, this short article doesn't go into when the 'group' that the bully belongs is considered (by the bully) to be the entire school/town/state.
I'll try to find a more inclusive article/
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#1 - Mon Jan 16, 2012 3:42 PM ESTIt always seems to be that a bully will have a posse of some kind. You see this in school and then they carry it onto the "playground" in their online social group. I guess the bully feels more powerful after making it seem to the victim like endless torture. One thing victims have to remember is that bullies rarely act alone. Maybe they're afraid of the victim retaliating and taking care of themselves. I doubt if a bully could make it in a one on one confrontation. It's amazing how " nice" bullies can become if it happens. They've begun to lose their power.
For some reason it reminds me of The Wizard of Oz. They're not such a badass when he or she has been exposed. lol
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Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain!"
The victims need to learn (in their heart of hearts) that what the bully says doesn't change who they (the person being bullied) really are. The physical acts of bullies are much more difficult to deal with, and can leave severe psychological scars. One needs a good support system, and understanding true friends, not false ones(like some bullies pretend to be).
Bullies do have their own problems though and should also seek help, unfortunately since they feel empowered by their actions they rarely if ever seek the help they need.
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One thing that seems to be missing these days is that kids don't have as much interaction with kids in other environments. There should be some kind of activity that doesn't include school friends, sports or facebook friends. Just plain old friends.
In response to your last comment, parents need to watch for signs that their kids are bullies. If so, they need to stop it by getting them help. Sometimes you have a whole family of bullies though. The kids think it's normal behavior.
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