Loving You Is Breaking My Heart | Psychology Today

I definitely think learning (or growing) should happen out of every romantic experience. Just like anything else, if you don't learn from your mistakes, you can expect the same results over and over.

Being in love can feel out of one's control, but I think people have to eventually apply some sort of rational thought to it and come to resolution. I have a friend who has been involved, in one way or another, with a woman for 9 years. They started out strong but in the last 3 years, she has lied, cheated, been cruel and strung him along. Yet, he continues to hold a candle for her. No matter how in love he is, I can't imagine why a 45 year old man would let a woman do some of the horrible, hurtful things that she has done. He has effectively convinced himself there's nothing better out there and if he just keeps supporting her, she will come around. A perfect example of how love can make an otherwise rational, reasonable person delusional.

And if there's one thing I've learned, there's no one single perfect person for everyone. It's all a matter of timing, who you meet and when you meet them. I'm madly in love with my husband, who I've known for over 8 years, and I would be devastated if something happened to him or us. But, I also know that because I don't want to be alone or unhappy for the rest of my life, eventually I would find a way to cope and move on.